I'm Not a Dating Kind of Gal

Remember when I wrote about how dating sucks? (Read post here) Well, I'm pretty sure it sucks more so because I'm not a dating kind of gal. When my boyfriend and I were feeling each other out I began to really think about why, to me, dating is awful. When we began to turn super serious I realized it's because I'm a relationship person. It was like a switch flipped and it all became blatantly clear.


1. I invest emotionally. - When I consider a potential partner, I begin to invest emotionally in them. I don't just date to date, I get to know someone in order to ensure there's an actual future possible. I start to see how our schedules, values and so on line up. I see what a person likes and dislikes in order to best adjust to them.

2. I don't like managing multiple people. - I can barely keep up with my work schedule and family so having to remember Jack, Daniel, Jorge and Christian doesn't work for me. I like sticking to one person and growing with them. Having to try and recall schedules, conversations and so on from more than one person is exhausting and just not something I want to be doing.

3. I'm needy. - I like attention and affection so if someone is dating me plus six others at the same time, I won't be getting the amount of either I require. That doesn't work for me so being old enough and mature enough to realize that saves me some headaches. 

4. I'm possessive. - This goes hand-in-hand with being needy, but I don't like to share. You touch what I view as mine and it won't be pretty so having to share someone with others as he's trying to see "who works best" just isn't for me. I'm number one or I'm walking away. 

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  1. Couldn't agree more with this! I never really got the dating scene either. Thankfully I met my boyfriend through some friends and got to know him that way, so I didn't have to go through the horrors of dating 😂 lovely post xx

    theassortedwriter.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. The dating scene is a mess and I hate it! Yay for easy boyfriends. :)

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  2. I can really relate to this! If I am remotely interested in someone I am looking at a future with the person not to just date and hook up.
    It is nice to read something like this because in the society Alot of people are missing the meaning of a relationship.

    Nikki O.
    herdaringthoughts.blogspot.com

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    1. YES! I feel like an old soul compared to those my age. I'm like, "I'm dating to marry, not to date." :)

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  3. Such a lovely and honest post and written with such personality as well! It's nice to see someone being so to the point and honest these days bring personality back into blogging 💖

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    1. Thank you! I am pretty straight-forward by nature. I'm glad you enjoyed the post! :)

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  4. I love how honest this post it. I swear we could be the same person its scary. All the things you said I relate to so much!
    Loved this post (:

    Alys
    www.alysgeorge.co.uk

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    1. Thank you for reading and I'm so glad you related to my post! :)

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  5. Managing so many people can become a pain. I can barely keep up with more than one chat on the dating apps. I totally get this post and relate to it. (:

    Single Vegas Girl
    http://singlevegasgirl.blogspot.com

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  6. I find posts like this so interesting to read. That sounded really patronising, but I genuinely mean it. I don't really have the same view points on relationships, so reading something like this is nice for me.

    And I know so many possessive people. Shout out to you, though. You seem to be so self-aware that you don't suffer from having to deal with a lot of the drawbacks that other people do with their possessiveness and their neediness. I actually really enjoyed this post (if it wasn't already obvious.)

    mchi | mchiouji — http://blog.mchiouji.me
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